Eighteen years old, David is quite struggling with his many roles in real life. He has to look after his father’s shop after the school, has to complete his home work assignments, prepare for the upcoming semester exam. He also want to give some of his friend a good time, has to play his beloved game, “Cricket”. At the same, David is so much desperate to complete his all daily works, he has a feeling of being over exited, sometimes pessimistic and totally out of control and genuinely called, “Stressed out teen for help”. David’s daily routine is the common amongst the many teens, whose facing stress situation similarly to his.
“Stress” is defined as the reaction of our mind and bodies to the different circumstances of daily life. It is because that the teenage is usually the stage of rapid change, it’s that the social, physical and academic, majority of the teens are more inclined towards the pressure or stress in this stage of life than at any other.
Factors increasing the Stress:
• Education problems and career planning
• what to wear or make certain types of clothing or hairstyles
• How to refuse or accept the drugs, alcohol or even sex
• How to fit into social and community groups and checking with others
• How to check and accommodate with different physical changes
• Managing time between family and groups
• How to look onto different routinely activities simultaneously
The teens have to look over those factors and they have to learn, how to handle these stress related problems. The professional help is not out of question in this regard, if not properly handled; this may lead to several illnesses, including severe depression, anxiety and some mental and physical signs of illness.
Signs of “Stressed out” teenagers:
• Signs of physical illness, like dizziness, headaches, muscles stiffness with pain, fever and severe fatigue.)
• Social isolation and distance from family members
• Bad temperament and irritating behavior among themselves and others
• Increase in or towards Pessimism ideology
• Nervous breakdown and increase in sense of worry and agitation
• Sleep and eating disorder
• Loss of focus
Natural reaction or our body biological response against the overload daily routine would sometimes be an uneven blood pressure, irregular heart cycle, hoarse breathing, and a suicidal sense of escape from all the worries. However, opposite to it, the teenagers can easily over these biological reactions, by clearly and calmly thinking to relax the mind; so the blood pressure would be normal, regular hear cycle, calm and routine breathing, and a clear optimistic thinking . To easily overcome such targets, there are numerous stress management skills that teenagers can adopt.
Lessons of Stress Management for Teenagers
• Before doing of anything, take a deep breath and feeling of being in the full control. (“Whispering the words that I can handle this situation alone.”)
• Before attempting, gradually relax muscles, especially the large muscles of the body.
• Always sets the small objectives to achieve and sets the smaller daily tasks
• Perform daily physical exercise and use well balanced diet, and avoid the unnecessary drugs
• Concentrate on the work in hand and forget worrying about the work on later time
• Practice and rehearse the difficult situations that might get you in trouble (e.g., speech practice or taking someone on a date.)
• Always share your obstacle of your daily life with reliable friends, including your parents and teachers
• Always makes the unrealistic approach at a minimum scale
• Take the schedule breaks and indulge into happy and enjoyable events, such as games, art classes, music and socializing.
• Be in yourself and satisfied with your abilities, identify within yourself the weaknesses and strengths, but always remember that no one is perfect.
All the activities which should be prohibited among the teens are well adapted, and there are no other reasons, which are not defined above. Improvement in teens life, are only when there is decrease in stress among them. Only authentic remedy would be to spread common stress management techniques, especially in the age bracket of 10 – 16 years, and let them decide, what is better for them. By forcing, or to persuade them to adopt the ways and means to overcome the daily problems, will ultimately leads towards another dilemma of stress; so it is better to and sometime very helpful to develop such a strategy which they easily accommodate themselves. Stress management is a time taking phenomenon and it is worthwhile for teens as well.